Barcelona looks like a dream. What’s been the best part of living and working there so far?
The obvious answer is the weather, it's the middle of October and I'm still enjoying 25 degrees and sun! Also loving the food, how accessible everything is (including the beach), and that everyone is very friendly - there’s a real sense of community.
Working away from the main office can be a big change. What routines or habits help you stay connected with the team in London?
Being online when the rest of my team are - keeping my diary up to date. Making time to catch up outside of scheduling meetings and always making time for a bit of small talk!
Do you have any go-to strategies for keeping in touch with friends and family back home?
Occasionally, I will pop notes in my diary to reach out to people - I'm very fortunate to have a close circle of friends I catch up with very regularly.
What role do those little daily check-ins play in your wellbeing?
They're massive. You forget when you're not in the office that you miss all the little interactions, like walking into the office with someone at the same time, a quick chat in the lift, or having a laugh with someone whilst you're eating your lunch. Having daily check-ins is great, as it could be the only time I get to touch base with someone that day outside of client calls!
Why do you think men often find it harder to talk about how they’re really doing?
I think being open and sometimes vulnerable can be seen as a weakness for men, something I don't agree with, but it stems back generations that men need to be ‘tough’. I also think men don’t talk face to face enough - we’re usually sat next to each other (at a football match for example) or standing at a bar. I also think growing up, boys don't talk as emotionally or deeply about things as girls do - they’re playing football or video games, and that often carries into adulthood for many men.
When you’ve opened up to friends or colleagues, what difference has it made?
A huge difference - even if it may be that I’ve already hit my breaking point, I instantly felt the weight off my shoulders when I opened up.
What would you say to men who might see talking about feelings as a weakness?
The harsh reality is you’d rather have a difficult conversation with someone than attend their funeral. Just talking to someone can make all the difference; it might be that you share similar thoughts, you’re both struggling and just needed one of you to reach out. It also strengthens friendships. My friends and I are super open - we are all there for each other, so it's important to be as open as you can, you’re stronger together!
This International Men’s Day is all about connection. What’s one piece of advice you’d share with other men working remotely?
You’re not alone, even if you feel you might be. There will be others in your situation. There are forums you can join, coffee (or beer) catchups, run clubs, chess clubs, football supporters clubs, the list goes on - you just have to find them. Also, doing your best to keep in touch with people from your company, have daily check-ins - make time on Friday to have a chat with someone you're close with about plans for the weekend - kindness is not a weakness!
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